'All he talks about is stockings'

'Butterfly's at her wits end. Her man's a cross dresser and she doesn't know how much more she can take!

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'I met this man about one-and-a-half years ago and I knew he liked to dress in women's clothes. We got along well and I didn't see it to be a problem but we soon moved in together and things began to get much worse.

He started wanting to dress up as a woman and be tied up during sex more and more. It's now got to the point where all he talks about is dressing up and wearing stockings, everywhere we go. He's always looking for stockings to buy when we're at the shops and when we're watching the telly, he says things like "Look hun, she has stockings on - you know who else likes stockings don't you!".

He's started wearing my clothes which makes me really mad and our sex life has gone to pot. He loves to tie himself up and when he does that he makes himself ejaculate, but we hardly ever actually have sex. On the rare occasions that we do get down to it, it's fast and no fun and he finds it hard to keep an erection.

I really feel like I'm nothing to him. He tells me he loves me but I don't believe him - it's all about the women's clothes now. I don't feel sexy any more, I don't even feel like the woman of the house as he's more of a woman than I am. I don't feel like putting on girls' clothes any more, it makes me feel sick and sometimes he says things like "That would look better on me".

Lately, he's even started wearing make-up, fake boobs and a wig which is just too much to cope with! I really need help. I'm getting ready to tell him I'm done with him and I need a man who satisfies me in bed and in life but I do still love him.

I just can't take it that dressing up as a woman is more important to him than being with me. I wouldn't even mind if it was just once in a while but now he's started going out for walks in public like that. Please can any one help me - what should I do?

Butterfly

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